FIND YOUR OWN FOOT GODDESS - PART 2

I HAD A FOOT FETISH CLIENT WHO SAID THAT HE HAD NO PROBLEM SHARING HIS FETISH WITH MOST OF HIS GIRLFRIENDS.  HE WAS AVERAGE IN LOOKS AND HAD A SUBMISSIVE PERSONALITY.  WHAT WAS HIS SECRET?  I DON'T THINK IT WAS HIS LOOKS AND I DON'T THINK IT WAS LUCK EITHER.  I THINK IT WAS HIS GENERAL ATTITUDE ABOUT HIS FETISH.

Worship & Passion vs Obsession & Fetish

THINK ABOUT THE BEST BLOW JOB YOU'VE EVER RECEIVED.

WHAT WAS SO GOOD ABOUT IT?  

TECHNIQUE?

THE PERSON GIVING IT?

HOW INTO IT THEY WERE (i.e. level of enthusiasm)

I CAN'T SAY IT EVER TURNED ME OFF TO HAVE A GUY WORSHIP MY FEET BUT IN THE BEGINNING IT DIDN'T EXACTLY TURN ME ON EITHER.  I DIDN'T QUITE UNDERSTAND WHAT THE HUGE FUSS WAS OVER MY FEET AND I DEFINITELY DIDN'T UNDERSTAND WHY SOMEONE WOULD EVER WANT TO SPEND MORE THAN A COUPLE MINUTES WORSHIPPING MY FEET. THEN ONE DAY IT DAWNED ON ME THAT I ACTUALLY ENJOY WORSHIPPING THE MALE BODY MYSELF, AND I COULD PROBABLY SPEND A GOOD 5 HOURS OR SO FOCUSING SOLELY ON THE LINGAM (tantra lingo) or COCK.  YES, I LOVE TO WORSHIP COCK.  NO, NOT EVERY COCK, JUST ONES THAT SMELL AND LOOK AND TASTE GOOD.  I COULDN'T DESCRIBE TO YOU WHAT A DESIRABLE COCK MIGHT LOOK LIKE, I JUST KNOW I LIKE IT WHEN I SEE IT.  PERHAPS YOU FEEL THE SAME WAY ABOUT A WOMEN'S FEET.  WHICH IS WHY I'M GOING TO COMPARE FOOT WORSHIP TO COCK WORSHIP TO ILLUSTRATE THE POINT OF THIS BLOG POST.

Why would a woman NOT want to have her feet, or any body part, worshipped?

WELL, CAN YOU IMAGINE BEING ON A DATE WITH A SEXY WOMAN WHO TELLS YOU SHE LOVES YOUR BEAUTIFUL SEXY COCK AND WANTS TO WORSHIP IT?  HOW MANY OF YOU MEN WOULD BE PUT OFF BY THAT?

NOW, YOU MIGHT SAY, IT'S NOT THE SAME THING BECAUSE A PENIS IS A SEXUAL ORGAN....WELL, THE FEET MAY NOT BE TRADITIONALLY CONSIDERED EROGENOUS ZONES BY MOST WOMEN BUT THE FACT IS, A LOT OF FEET ARE VERY, VERY SENSITIVE AND VERY RESPONSIVE TO TOUCH.  AND JUST LIKE THE PENIS, THERE ARE VARYING PREFERENCES IN TECHNIQUE.  SOME WOMEN RESPOND BETTER TO SOFTER TOUCH AND SOME (LIKE ME) RESPOND BETTER TO DEEPER OR FIRMER TOUCH.  SOME MEN, LIKE TIGHT AND HARD STROKES AND SOMETIMES GUYS CAN GET OFF WITH SLOWER, MORE SENSUAL STROKES.

I DON'T THINK THAT WOMEN DISLIKE HAVING THEIR FEET WORSHIPPED FOR PHYSICAL REASONS.  MY THEORY IS THAT SOME WOMEN HAVE NEVER MENTALLY ALLOWED THEMSELVES TO THINK OF THEIR FEET AS BEING EROGENOUS ZONES BECAUSE IT'S NOT A SOCIAL NORM IN WESTERN CULTURE.  IN OTHER WORDS, I THINK IT'S A MENTAL BLOCK CAUSED BY CULTURAL CONDITIONING.  I'M SURE THAT SOMEWHERE OUT IN THE WORLD, THERE IS A MATRIARCHAL TRIBE THAT PRACTICES RITUAL FOOT WORSHIP TO THEIR FEMALE LEADER AND ALL OTHER WOMEN WITHIN THIS TRIBE NOT ONLY ENJOY HAVING THEIR FEET WORSHIPPED BY THEIR HUSBANDS, THEY ACTUALLY EXPECT IT.  I HAVE NO PROOF OF WHETHER THIS TRIBE EXISTS, IT'S JUST A HUNCH.  IF ANY ONE OUT THERE HAS SOME ANTHROPOLOGICAL EVIDENCE OF SUCH A COMMUNITY OR PRACTICE, PLEASE LET ME KNOW, I'M CURIOUS.

AND IF YOU HAPPEN TO LIVE IN A WESTERN CULTURE LIKE MINE (CANADA), I THINK THE SOLUTION TO YOUR PROBLEM LIKES NOT IN RELOCATING TO A RURAL AFRICAN COMMUNITY.  I THINK IT'S A MATTER OF RE-EDUCATING WOMEN TO BE OPEN AND RECEPTIVE TO SOME GOOD FOOT-LOVIN'.  SHOWING SOME LUCKY LADY HOW PASSIONATE YOU ARE ABOUT HER FEET AND EXPLAINING HOW MUCH SHE DESERVES TO HAVE HER FEET WORSHIPPED.

NOW, IMAGINE BEING ON A DATE WITH A WOMAN WHO TELLS YOU SHE IS OBSESSED WITH SUCKING COCK AND HAS A COCK FETISH AND WANTS TO GIVE YOU A BLOW JOB BECAUSE SHE JUST CAN'T STOP THINKING ABOUT YOUR COCK... WOULD YOUR REACTION TO THIS WOMAN BE DIFFERENT THAN THE WOMAN WHO EXPRESSED PASSION FOR YOUR COCK?

WHICH WOMAN WOULD YOU PREFER TO SHARE YOUR COCK WITH?  THE OBSESSIVE WOMAN WITH THE COCK FETISH OR THE PASSIONATE  WOMAN WHO IS INTO COCK WORSHIP?

AN IMPORTANT THING TO KEEP IN MIND IS THE INHERENT DIFFERENCE BETWEEN HOW MALES COMMUNICATE THEIR SEXUAL NEEDS vs. HOW FEMALES COMMUNICATE THEIR SEXUAL DESIRES.  WE TEND TO USE WHAT WORKS FOR US.  ACCORDING TO THIS THEORY, MEN TEND TO RESPOND TO PRIMAL SENSORY CUES SUCH AS VISUALS (Tits, Ass & shapely Toes) OR SMELL (Stinky feet).  SO THEY END UP TRYING TO SEDUCE OR IMPRESS A FEMALE WITH THEIR MASSIVE ERECTION OR NEW COLOGNE.  THE PROBLEM WITH THIS SCENARIO IS THAT WOMEN TEND TO BE MORE COMPLEX IN THEIR MATE SELECTION PROCESS.  FOR EXAMPLE, WOMEN RESPOND MORE STRONGLY TO EMOTIONAL (e.g. sense of humour, emotional sensitivity) AND BEHAVIORAL CUES (e.g. Confidence and Charisma).  THIS IS WHY MEN GENERALLY STRIKE OUT WHEN THEY SEND PHOTOS OF THEIR ERECTIONS TO THEIR ADMIRERS AND WHY WOMEN ARE ABLE TO WITHHOLD SEX FROM AN ADMIRER UNTIL SHE GETS WHAT SHE WANTS.

I'M READING A BOOK CALLED, "SEX AT DAWN: THE PREHISTORIC ORIGINS OF MODERN SEXUALITY" BY CHRISTOPHER RYAN & CACILDA JETHA.  THE AUTHORS EXPLAIN, USING EVOLUTIONARY PSYCHOLOGY,  HOW DIFFERENCES IN THE SURVIVAL NEEDS OF MEN AND WOMEN RESULT IN AN IMBALANCED SEX CONTRACT.  THEY EVEN QUOTE JERRY SEINFELD'S FIRE & FIREMAN ANALOGY:

"The basic conflict between men and women, sexually, is that men are like firemen.  To men, sex is an emergency, and no matter what we're doing we can be ready in 2 minutes.  Women, on the other hand, are like fire.  They're very exciting, but the conditions have to be exactly right for it to occur."

IF YOU WANT TO SEDUCE A WOMAN YOU NEED TO BE ABLE TO SELL YOUR ENTIRE SELF, THE WHOLE PACKAGE, NOT JUST YOUR FOOT PREFERENCES.  AS YOUR OWN SALES PERSON "SELLING" YOURSELF TO A POTENTIAL MATE,  ATTITUDE AND CONFIDENCE CAN MAKE ALL THE DIFFERENCE IN THE WORLD.  ONCE A WOMAN IS WILLING TO "BUY" INTO YOU, SELLING YOUR  PASSION FOR FEET SHOULD BE AS EASY AS GETTING HER TO UPGRADE FROM SYNTHETIC TO LEATHER SEATS IN HER NEW RIDE (Note to Self: come up with a better analogy...It's 5am and I haven't gone to bed yet so my brain is not functioning optimally ; )

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FIND YOUR OWN FOOT GODDESS - PART 1

I get a lot of feedback from foot lovers who say that it's difficult to find a woman who 
a) has nice feet,
b) is comfortable having someone pay attention to her feet, and
c) is accepting and/or understanding of foot fetish.

I've received so much feedback on this matter that I thought it was worth writing about.  As someone who has always been interested in the psychology of relationships and sexuality, this is a topic of both personal and professional interest to me.  If I can offer information or a perspective that might help even one foot lover out there, then it was worth writing this.

It goes without saying that confident people are relatively more attractive than less confident people, regardless of their physical looks, their interests or thickness of their wallet.  I am going to assume that you, the reader, are male and are interested in finding a woman with nice feet, although this topic could easily apply to other genders, sexual orientations and interests.

Everyone has different areas in their life or environments in which they feel more or less confident than in other areas. For example, I exude confidence when I am on a dance floor (dancing solo and completely sober), however, I would feel very insecure if I were sitting in a campaign office among politicians who are discussing the next election.

When I'm on the dance floor, I'm like a fish in water, and feel very much at ease, in my element.  I literally shine and give off an energy that people are drawn to.
In the other scenario, you might not even notice that I'm in the room and if you did, I would come across very awkward.  If I were interested in meeting a man, I definitely would avoid searching for Mr. Right at political 'parties' and stick to places where I can get my groove on.  Makes sense, right?

Personally, I've never been one to hang out at bars or clubs to meet people - I'm just not into drinking or the club scene.  I have observedg that these environments or the workplace are typically where people do their hunting.  However, if you are like me and don't feel comfortable trying to "pick up" at a club, then don't do it.  There are other options.  Ask yourself, if you were in a relationship, where would you love to hang out with your woman?  Or what type of activities would you want to do (aside from the obvious foot-related activities)?  So go out and spend your time searching there.  This direction seems kind of obvious but, some people tend to have trouble thinking for themselves and instead find themselves doing what they think we're supposed to do to meet a mate.  In other words, don't be afraid to stray from the rest of the flock and do your own thing, find your own way.  Trust that you know yourself best and go with your gut, yo!

Okay, so maybe you're really good at your job and you enjoy what you do but you happen to work in an environment where you either have no or few co-workers or if you do have coworkers they're mostly males.  Well, there are situations where you can meet people other than the workplace.  A good one is Meetup.com.  I won't go into any detail about this - you can check it out yourself if you want and I think if you are really determined to meet someone, you need to take some initiative and go out and do some old-fashioned hunting.  And if you're not willing to do this but expect someone to fall into your lap, well, I can't help you, honey.

SET YOURSELF UP FOR SUCCESS and put yourself in situations where you can feel relatively confident about yourself, where you can shine your natural light (assuming you want to attract light...if you're more of a bat and want to find your bat-girl, go find your nearest cave).

When you shine, people naturally want to know what your secret is.  What are you all about?  What makes you tick?  And if it's FEET that make you tick (or tickle), they will want to know that about you as well, especially if it's something you are really passionate about.  And if they're not interested or turned off by that, then they're obviously not the one for you.

There is definitely something to say about how you bring up your love of feet for the first time.  When you mention foot fetish, do you say it as if you are talking about that big hairy mole on your back - with reluctance or hesitation or embarrassment?  Or do you talk about your fetish with the same energy as you would talk about your favourite food or favourite sports car or favourite NFL team - with enthusiasm and joy and passion?

Think of yourself as a Salesman and what you're selling is your Self.  Say you own a nice home, have a nice car or are really good at playing an instrument.
Would you be able to talk about your foot fetish FEETure with the same energy as you could talk about your other features?  Again, this might seem obvious to some readers but it's easy to read about a certain behaviour or tendency and be totally clueless that YOU actually do that yourself.

It's definitely worth doing a self-check to see how you actually come across to people of the opposite sex when you broach the subject of feet.  And if you have had a history, or even one bad experience, where someone reacted negatively to your foot fetish, then it makes complete sense that you have some issues about bringing up your fetish with someone you like.  The term "self-fulfilling prophecy" comes to mind here.  If you believe or think that someone will react negatively to your fetish, then they most likely will.  Not because it was inevitable from the start, but  because of the energy you gave off during the whole interaction.

There is a quote by Henry Ford: "Whether you think you can or think you can't, either way you are right."

For me, this is more than a quote, it's a philosophical Truth.  And if you choose not to believe this as Truth, that's your loss.  It's always easier to blame the world around you for your misfortunes but when we can learn to take some responsibility for our lives and what we attract into our life, that's when Magic can happen...

Join me in this Magical Journey...

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How to Communicate with a Geisha

This post is to give you a better idea of how I operate and how you can get a response from me:

First of all, I am grateful and feel blessed to have had so much support from so many people and as with anything I do, I like to put in 100%.  I have made it my mission to be as accessible and down-to-earth as possible.  I want people to see that I am a REAL person and not just an online character or persona putting on an act.  This is one of the changes I've made to my YouTube channel and my blog. 

For those of you who have contacted me via email since I launched LoveliestFeet.com and my YouTube channel last summer I want you to know that I have every intention of responding.  I read every single email I get even though I may not respond right away.  

I want you to know that if you take the time to write me an email, I will take the time to reply and to acknowledge your effort.  The only exception to this is if you send me a vulgur or disrespectful email.  

I have no problem when someone wants to share with me that they get off from watching my videos or pics - I'm not naive and I am vey open-minded about foot fetish and sexuality in general.  

What I DO have a problem with is people who email me pics of their penis.  It's no different than walking up to me on the street and flashing your cock at me - people get arrested for that.  Have some self-control and the decency to at least ask for permission before you show yourself to me.  If you DO send me things like that or are disrespectful to me in any way, I will simply ignore you.  You get what you give.  Simple Law of Attraction.  You are disrespectful, You get no respect in return.

I also don't like it when people tell me what to do or what I should do, like they own me.  Most of you are polite and make "requests" rather than commands and I appreciate that.  

There are nice ways to ask for what you want and there are childish and disrespectful ways to ask for things.  Think before you write.

It also is nice to get emails with at least a first name.  I'm putting my self out there with my videos and website and giving out lots of personal information about myself, the least you could do to EARN a response from me is give me a first name.  This doesn't even have to be your real name - just a name.  I'm not going to hunt you down and try to find out who you are so I can tell everyone you have a foot fetish and ruin your life, NO.  It's just nice to put a name to an email and even better, if you send me a photo of you, I can put a face to a name.  I am more likely to remember people who send photos of themselves - it's just the way my brain works - I'm visually inclined.  So, it's not mandatory, but if you want to make a memorable impression on me and separate yourself from all the other foot lovers who write me, send me a pic.  I will never share this pic with anyone or upload it - it's just for me.

So for those of you who wrote me an email as far back as last year, I wanted to let you know that you WILL hear from me but I ask for and appreciate your patience.  I have a backlog of literally hundreds of emails to go through and that list is growing every day.  

I do not respond to chat requests or messages sent to me through YouTube, Twitter or Flickr - there's just no way I can manage all of that and I would rather answer all of my emails myself than hire someone else to pretend to be me.  I'm not someone who enjoys being on the internet or computer - I can only handle a couple hours a day tops.  

I am a much happier person when I spend my time doing a variety of things AWAY from the computer.  When I'm happy I have more energy and motivation to be creative and make more foot media to share with the world.  

So I hope this helps to clarify why I take so long to answer emails and why I choose not to respond to other messages.  

Thank you for reading!

Kia ; )

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